Breathe | Contemplate | Remember : Advice to Couples Whose Wedding Date Seems Unsure

April 13, 2020

Most likely some time in the last year you got engaged. The venue is reserved, the flowers are ordered and the dress fits just perfectly. Everything has come together nicely.  You’ve been eagerly anticipating the day you promise “forever” to the love of your life…and then the pandemic happened. If you were planning on a spring wedding, you may be feeling a little unsure right now. COVID19 has taken us all by surprise and rocked our world. I would like to say to all my wedding couples in 2020, I am so sorry this has happened. I want you to know that the wedding community is on your side. We’re all in this together and we are all here to support you and help you in any way possible!

Take heart, my friends, there is hope on the horizon, and there will be a time when this is over…but until then, I have some suggestions that I believe will be an encouragement to you. If you postpone your special day, or if you’re just uncertain of what will happen next, I hope these words will help you make the most of the “extra” time you’ve been given. 

First, take a deep breath.  Planning a wedding is stressful enough, without the added anxiety that comes with a worldwide pandemic.  Take a moment, breathe deeply and pray for strength to get through this. Try to take some time away from planning by relaxing by yourself or with your significant other.  There are a lot verses in the Bible that you can read and meditate on. Other activities to help clear your head and help you relax include: taking a walk, playing with your pets, cleaning projects, trying out new recipes, and working out! Being outdoors is wonderful as well! 🙂 Any of these are great options to help you through this time.

Next, contemplate. Think of ways to make the most of the extra time you’ve been given.  Have you been putting off writing your vows for true inspiration to hit? Now is the time to get inspired.  Sit down with a notebook and start writing out your thoughts. Some couples like to start their vows by saying why they love each other. Make a list of all the things you love about your future spouse. It may be short or it may be 5 pages long. Everyone is different. 

Another thing you can do with your extra time is practice your dance moves! If you’re unsure how your “first dance” may go, there are tons of resources online. If you really want to “wow” your wedding guests, check out the wedding first dance choreography of “Perfect” by Ed Sheehan at the bottom of this post. I’ve seen everything, from Justin and Kassandra’s Blues Brother’s dance, to Jess and Tabel’s amazing salsa dance. (see photos below). Whatever you decide, now is the time to practice!  

And, if all those things are already taken care of, you could work on organizing those engagement photos!  With the slower pace of current life, now is an excellent time to create a pictorial heirloom from your engagement session images. Some couples use this as a guest book at their wedding. Your engagement photos are gorgeous, so use them for something purposeful that you’ll always have to look back on. I hope these ideas encourage you to take a moment and really think about what you want to get done in the extra time you have until things are back to normal.

And lastly, remember. Remember the reason for the planning. It’s about celebrating the love of your life. When all is said and done, whether it be this spring or later this summer, years from now this will all be a distant memory and you’ll be glad you enjoyed the extra moments you got to plan your perfect day.  Of course, you want your wedding day to be the most spectacular thing you have ever witnessed, but please don’t worry and stress over the unknown. Remember, it’s a special day where all of your friends and family will be gathered to support and celebrate you and your future spouse. Wedding planning should bring you closer to your fiancé and help you remember that you get to spend the rest of your life with them after the ceremony. After all, a wedding is much more than just the day…it’s a lifetime!

I want you to know that I’m concerned with you. I’m sad about all the ways our lives have changed, about all the weddings that are getting postponed. But I am not without hope. I know that “all things work together for good”, and that when this is all over, we will all come out stronger. 

So, my friends, breathe, contemplate and remember. Breathe deeply and meditate on positive things. Contemplate what you can do with the extra time you’ve been given. And remember the reason for all the planning. You get to spend the rest of your life with your best friend. 

*For more articles or helps, scroll to the bottom of the post for links that may further encourage and assist you. 

Verses to meditate on in times of distress | Mark Altrogge Bible Study Tools

Email Templates to Send Your Guests | Every Last Detail

Email Templates for Wedding Planners | Refine

Online Dance Instructions | Youtube Choreography “Perfect” Ed Sheeran

Online Dance Instructions | Youtube Choreography “You Are the Reason” Calum Scott

Online Dance Instruction | Youtube Choreography “A Thousand Years” Christina Perry

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